Opening Her Mind To A Threesome

It is not a coincidence that the top fantasy of the majority of guys is to have a threesome.  The idea of multiple women seeking to simultaneously please you is appealing on many levels, however, short of paying for it achieving this fantasy is easier said than done.  This is especially so if you desire to include your girlfriend or wife as opposed to procuring two random slutty girls in order to live out this dream.  The following advice is geared for guys within a monogamous relationship who seek advice on how to convince their girl to give them this most precious of all gifts.

The primary issue for you to remain cognizant of is the power of the bonding urge within females.  Monogamy urges run far deeper in females, and bringing another female into your realm of intimacy presents for a primordial threat to her.  The first step is to make her absolutely believe and be confident in the fact that she will remain the center of your attention and attraction.  Her insecurities present for the largest obstacle between you and a threesome, and you must patiently and emphatically address them.

The art of persuasion comes into play when convincing her that a threesome presents no threat to your relationship, and that you will not think any differently about her after this adventure.  The first step is to listen — and ensure she knows you are listening.  Hearing her insecurities and possible objections fully allows you to more effectively craft your strategy of persuasion.  Ensure you do not appear overly eager, nor should you immediately respond to her objections.  Let her talk through her insecurities and be open and supportive.

Endeavor to elicit her fantasies and express an open mind to them (assuming they do not constitute anything truly objectionable to you).  Being open to fulfilling her fantasies puts her in a more difficult position in terms of declining yours.  Do not be judgemental about her fantasies no matter what your true thoughts are — the more accepting you are of them translates to increased odds she’ll be willing to go through with yours even if a threesome goes against her better judgement.

Make sure you assure her that you will not view her sexuality any differently after witnessing her interact with another woman, and further assure her that many perfectly normal heterosexual girls engage in threesomes in order to help fulfill their guy’s fantasies.  This is obviously not the case when it comes to a guy accepting another guy into a threesome, and this distinction should be emphasized in support of her fear of violating societal norms.

Most importantly, remain patient.  She might need time to come to terms with this idea, and expecting her to enthusiastically jump on it is overly optimistic.  She might be initially scared and overwhelmed by the concept of a threesome, so give her the requisite time for it to fully sink in and for her to engage in the rationalization process necessary for her to arrive at your desired response.

Be sensitive and attuned to any objections which arise — whether said or unsaid.  Craft a response to any objections which assures her of your continuing monogamous intentions, and build up her self esteem which can suffer if your request leads her to have doubts in her ability to satisfy you by herself.  Solicit her input as to the type of girl she’d prefer to join your threesome, and be flexible to meet her desires.  Maybe a redhead isn’t your ideal type, but if that is what she requests then don’t push the issue.  Ideally, having threesomes might be incorporated into your sexual routines, and you’ll eventually get to have more input into the selection of your play partner.  At first, let her be in the drivers seat.

Getting her to say yes to a threesome is achieved by persuasion as opposed to convincing — there is a key difference.  Do not seek to out-debate her or get her to say yes out of a sense of obligation or guilt.  This is bound to fail.  Overcoming her insecurities when it comes to having a threesome is best done using the art of subtle persuasion and overcoming her fears.  It might take some time, but the rewards are more than worth it.

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